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Understanding Avoidant Attachment
Section 1: Course Introduction
Welcome! (0:54)
My Intentions for this Course (1:40)
Holding Complexity and Reducing Shame (2:09)
How to Use this Course (1:20)
Committing to the Work and Each Other (1:33)
Troubleshooting Issues with the Teachable Platform and Downloads for this Course
Section 2: The Development of Avoidant Attachment and Common Characteristics
Welcome to Section 2 (0:34)
A Note On Language and Focus (1:32)
Some Brief Background on the Nervous System and Stress Response (4:03)
The Development of Avoidant Attachment (2:32)
We All Want to Connect (2:03)
Distancing Behaviors (2:23)
Identifying Distancing Behaviors Worksheet Directions (1:08)
Worksheet: Identifying Distancing Behaviors and Responses
The Importance of Amplifying the Positives in Partners and Relationships (3:18)
Worksheet: Amplifying the Positive
Why Expressing Emotions Isn't Comfortable for the Avoidant Style (1:17)
The Avoidant Style and Commitment in Relationships (1:50)
The Role of Secrecy and Infidelity in the Avoidant Style (3:48)
Section 3: What is needed to heal avoidant attachment?
Welcome to Section 3 (0:28)
Aspects of Healing the Avoidant Style (5:13)
Worksheet: Reciprocity in Relationships
Keeping Time in Perspective (1:52)
List: Qualities Needed to Heal the Avoidant Attachment Adaptation
What types of interactions might be perceived as harsh by people with the avoidant style? (2:42)
Grief and Healing (1:48)
Section 4: For People with the Avoidant Style
Welcome to Section 4 (1:02)
The Role of Co-Regulation in Healing (3:13)
Options for Co-Regulation (3:36)
How have you been "received" in the past? (2:56)
Shifting the Focus from Individuals to the Relationship (2:02)
Requesting Small Needs Be Met by Others (1:27)
Worksheet: What can I do to let my partner in a little bit more?
Section 4: For People Supporting Those with the Avoidant Style
Welcome to Section 4 (1:06)
The Importance of Self-Regulation (2:57)
Worksheet: Self-Soothing Toolkit
Why Rushing Connection Doesn't Work (3:10)
Creating and Holding Space in Your Relationship (2:13)
Can you be flexible with your needs? (3:16)
Your Personal Work Improves Your Relationship (2:15)
Worksheet: How can I engage in my own work?
Reducing Drama (2:34)
Knowing If Your Relationship is Sustainable (please read text description before watching!) (6:14)
Journal Prompt: Knowing If Your Relationship is Sustainable
Section 5: Resourcing and Regulating
Welcome to Section 5 (1:12)
Learning to be welcomed (and welcoming) (3:14)
Understanding Your Triggers (2:12)
Worksheet: Working with Emotional Triggers for the Avoidant Style
Using a Feelings Wheel (2:15)
Tool: Feelings Wheel
The Importance of Naming Needs (1:48)
Worksheet: Scripts for Communicating Your Needs
Introduction to Meditation for Soothing Avoidant Attachment (1:28)
Meditation: Soothing the Avoidant Attachment Adaptation
Managing Moments of Disconnection in Your Relationship (2:53)
List: Ways to Increase Connection In Your Relationship
Section 6: Recap, Closing, and Thank You
Welcome to Section 6 (0:19)
Course Recap (1:37)
Integrating the Information (1:35)
Moving Forward: What's Next? (1:26)
Resource List
Thank you! (1:02)
3 Minute Survey
Holding Complexity and Reducing Shame
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